We know that disregarding a potential boyfriend based upon his height is not only a scant judgmental, but quite frankly, ineffective.
If you’re like the rest of us and just trying to get a text back, then you know firsthand that the modern dating market is competitive, confusing, and ultimately deficient in quality prospects; no need to make it even harder for yourself by ruling out the “The One” simply because he doesn’t have to duck to enter rooms.
Because truthfully, isn’t the root of this stigma surrounding shorter men rooted in gender conventions that assert that a man is supposed to, well, dominate a woman in both stature and presence?
The idea that women feel more precious—protected, even—tucked under the arm of a hulk of man? Now I certainly understand people have their tastes—my best guy friend, who stands at 6-feet-7, won’t even consider dating a guy below 6 feet, but as Vogue.com’s Fashion News Director Chioma Nnadi stresses, it’s ultimately about a connection.
“I want to feel like a dainty woman when I’m with a man,” a coworker says.
She’s tall, she’s blonde, and I can’t possibly think of anyone more feminine, but I let her finish.
You used to love being a tall, sexy woman, but now it just feels like a problem over which you have zero control.
Your internalization of the patriarchy makes you question why you're dating him. You feel insecure about it, and that makes you feel like a huge dick.
He wasn't exactly shorter than me, but he had maaaaaaaybe an inch on me. There's nothing wrong with dating a guy who's shorter than you, but it does come with its difficulties. He'll constantly ask you why you always wear flats.
What’s interesting is how women use height in gauging their attraction for men.
It turns out that height, like many other factors, depends on the individual – their own physical characteristics and what they’re looking for in a mate. Let’s first start with the tendency for women to prefer taller men since this idea is a common expectation.
Taller men may be seen as more dominant and assertive (Melamed, 1992).
In evolutionary terms, a larger man may have been able to provide more protection to their offspring, have greater genetic qualities to pass on to their future children, and thus may be awarded with greater social status.