It was literally as if someone stabbed my heart; there was a problem that caused my body to stop working properly. Like during any trauma your body faces, it tries to repair itself so it can be whole again. To stay busy, pretend everything was great, and throw myself into dating other people the very day things broke off. I’m usually very conscious of who I date and intentional of how I treat them.
But now that my heart was hurt, all those rules were thrown out the window. It didn’t matter who they were, if I had dated them before, or even if I really liked them. I hoped that if I were his girl I’d soon forget about the other guy. And when I realized I never would, I had to break things off.
And if your partner decided to end things with you? Sometimes, things can feel so bad that you don’t even know what to do or how to keep going. You don’t know what to do with yourself to ease the pain.
There’s something that jut breaks inside you and you can’t muster up the energy to trudge on through life, trying to be okay when inside you’re falling apart.
And sometimes, all you want to do is get through those awful emotions as quickly as possible, so you can move on and stop feeling so terrible (1).
The bad news is – it’s going to take time to work through all your feelings and start feeling better again.
I see far too many people jumping into relationships and not guarding their affections, only to become confused, disillusioned, and devastated.Since the breakup we had zero contact and in this time I have become friends with another guy.Only friends, only platonic, and I’ve been really upfront about my emotional position.When him and I are good we are the bestest friends but when we are bad we are the most toxic, disgusting humans on earth. And now im on the floor writing about this I feel so alpne I feel as if tho the world is crashing on me. I truly genuinely miss him but I know we are just Two toxic people i have no one to talk to i lost my bestfriend my everything because he was dangerous..i feel wrecked and so alone it even gives me feelings of giving up in life. I have had a conversation with the new guy, and he is understanding and patient – but I also don’t want to keep him hanging on. But I applaud you for getting out there instead of pining away for a guy who demonstrated his lack of integrity by going straight into the arms of your friend. And then, when it comes time to step things up, they bail because they weren’t “really” ready to be committed for life. These are not bad people; they are driven by their emotions and are doing the best they can.